To love someone properly, we need to be prepared to lose them. Anger, fear, and jealousy drive out love; and love needs a strong dash of fearlessness to flourish.Okay, so you fear losing your loved one to someone else (and possibly fear how this will make you feel about yourself).Stephen King has a stellar career from making stuff up and writing about it. Right now, I can imagine an alien invasion headed right towards Earth.I can vividly 'see' the pesky aliens about to land the mother ship in my local park, but I don't I recall seeing a You Tube video of a dog becoming very angry - with its own leg.Constant questioning by you can even be as destructive as having an affair in the long run.You'll still distrust your partner for a while (out of sheer habit), but find the strength to start acting Some (not all) jealousy is driven by low self-esteem. I don't understand how someone like them could be attracted to someone like me!But just as a spark can illuminate a room, a blaze can burn it to the ground. We're told it's great to have 'a good imagination', but he was using his to torment himself.Of course, if your partner is continually sexually active with other people, then jealousy is totally justified.
But here I want to focus on helping you if you feel jealous (that's to say, there is no real or proper evidence that your partner is or has been unfaithful to you).These tips also focus on sexual jealousy rather than, say, being jealous of the amount of time your partner spends with their mother or kids.So how can we start to break the jealousy cycle, reclaim self-control, and stop driving our partners and ourselves crazy? If they do lie to you, then they are not making a fool out of anyone but themselves - remember that.If you must keep using your imagination, use it to imagine the 'worst' happening and you still being okay; not just surviving, but thriving in this imagined scenario.Fantasize about how well you'd react, how whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger.