I have never felt particularly exoticized as a type before.
When I went home to Rhode Island in April, I dyed my hair a slighly darker blonde, verging on brown.
Both Dutch women and Dutch men are renowned for being straight-forward in conversation, and little social negativity is attached to asking personal questions or openly stating one's unsolicited opinion in the Netherlands.
The Dutch tend to believe it is better to be honest than mislead someone.
Some say it is unromantic but Dutch relationships pride themselves on equality between Dutch women and men.
Another option is for one person to pay for, say, drinks and the other for movie tickets.
Forget the sugar-coating – being down-to-earth and direct will earn a lot more points with a Dutch man or Dutch girls. Friends also usually kiss three times on the cheek in greeting; some strangers may kiss when being introduced to someone through a common friend, although a handshake is more common. It is not uncommon to split the bill on the first date – right down to the last cent's worth of what you ate – regardless of whether your're dating a Dutch man or woman.
However, some facts in the Dutch dating game remain true regardless of where you meet new people in the Netherlands.
The Dutch love efficiency and leading someone on can be a waste of everybody's time.
You can find that both Dutch men and women cut out flirting and small-talk in favour of simply stating one's desire or intentions.
It turns out that every foreign woman is gorgeous in Brazil. It was only slight a letdown, to find out that every other female traveler I talked to was having a similar experience: being told that she was linda, linda, linda.
Now I am back in Rio, though, and almost wistful for those days.