Note – some people like going out with their friend’s exes because they’re pre-approved.
Being friends with the exes of their friends elevates them and they may even enjoy listening to these people expressing their hurt over the breakup and then…
A lot of people are friends with an ex or two although plenty aren’t.
“You’d want to watch yourself there with all of those exes.
Talking with a friend recently who was rather enamoured with a chap who was super ambiguous, a little probing revealed that this guy has a hell of a lot of female friends. Like when you see those shows about hoarders and then can barely move for all of the stuff piled up around them and they feel super attached to stuff that they’re never going to use or appreciate for that matter.
This guy collects exes, love interests that he’s turned down as well as becoming friends with the exes of his friends.
When I see people carting around their exes and devoting so much time to tending to these ‘friendships’, I have to wonder: how in the hell do they expect to have room for a romantic partner? Baggage Reclaim is a guide to learning to live and love with self-esteem by breaking the patterns that stand in your way.
I regularly ask people who are expending excessive amounts of energy on keeping their ex in their life: Exactly what part of moving forward with your life does your ex fit into? Whether it’s figuring out what’s going on in a troubling relationship, understanding you and self-care, or being more assertive, I’m here to help you guide you.